MYSELF

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I graduated from Psychology major in Canada in 1995. For years I worked in HR until 2006 when I realised, that my passion and calling is to help mend relationships. I started professional training for family pscyhotherapy in Spring 2007 and I received my qualification in Spring 2011. I am a member of Estonian Family Therapy Association. In addition, I have studied to become a family mediator. I finished my studies in 2008. In 2012 I studied Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples which provides a model for understanding adult love relationship and relieving the stress associated with it. In January 2013 Imago Clinical Introductory Course taught me how couples (parent-child, man-woman) may connect again through talking and understanding. Imago dialogue is a good tool to facilitate this. In 2015 I took a course in mindfulness which helps to relieve anxiety and is one tool towards a more joyful life. In autumn 2015 I received a certificate to start training parents of 3-6-year old misbehaving kids according to the program “Incredible Years”. The training program included learning motivational interviewing (MI) skills and techniques. MI is useful when a person is ambivalent about certain change – I want the change and at the same time part of me does not. Erik van der Elst from Holland taught me how to train high divorce parents to improve their relationship to benefit the child.
I did volunteer work at Tallinn Big Families’ Union in 2009-2014, at  Jüri Gymnasium in 2008-2011 and in Avitus 2010-2013. 2012-2014 relationship related pieces were published at delfi naistekas webpage and in 2013-2015 I answered questions at vastused.ee. In January 2014 I founded EELK Family Center together with Manager Pia Ruotsala. The Center provides family counselling and has helped 1415 people by today. It recently expanded to Tartu as well. In 2015 I composed a questionnaire to match singles for Teele and Toots matchmaking company. Shortly after followed the TV series where my task was to match people up and then counsel the development of their relationship. I am a trainer and in May 2016 two e-courses in Estonian will be available through ahsoo.ee website: “If and how to divorce?” and “How to preserve love and avoid affairs?”
I work in Estonian and English preferrably. Russian is ok too.
Writing a blog on relationship issues and publishing articles now and then in magazines is a hobby of mine. The blog also has posts in English.

Most work I have done with the issue of separation or divorce which means that I help people who are planning to end the relationship, who are seeking ways to do it as smoothly as possible, and also who want get back together with their ex-partner. Many couples come to seek help with communications issues and turn to me because they fight too much. Many parents want help with their child’s problematic behavior.